Wake up post.
So I spent all day yesterday at my sister's husband's wake. It's kinda odd to call it "his" wake as he's really just a prop. He is technically the main attraction if you ask anyone, but that's clearly bullshit if you stay there for 6 hours.
My sister was the main attraction and thats as it should be.
I was asked by one of Dan's (the deceased) sisters to accompany my sister into the room for the initial contact. This proposition scared me a bit, but I've been to 3 wakes of my wife's grand parents so I wasn't so fearful as then. The thought of seeing a body the first time was scary as hell, this time It was nothing. My sister was very sad and that made me very sad.
In truth I wasn't close to the this person. To tell the absolute truth which is what I do, I didn't even like this person the few times I had contact with him. That doesn't make the situation any less sad. My sister has two small children and they now have no daddy.
It's over the top sad.
Being an atheist puts another spin on this too. I think it makes it more sad. When someone said that Dan had accepted "god's will" that bugged me because he didn't accept anything. His death was thrust upon him.
Today there is another viewing followed by a mass followed by a burial.
My atheist friend and mentor Sarah from vegas is in NY and her flight we figured out is 15 mins before mine on the same airline at the same airport we have plans to meet up so I'll be able to dump this on her which is going to get me through today. Some people would call that fate, or 'meant to be', Sarah and I call it a:
Coincidence
My sister was the main attraction and thats as it should be.
I was asked by one of Dan's (the deceased) sisters to accompany my sister into the room for the initial contact. This proposition scared me a bit, but I've been to 3 wakes of my wife's grand parents so I wasn't so fearful as then. The thought of seeing a body the first time was scary as hell, this time It was nothing. My sister was very sad and that made me very sad.
In truth I wasn't close to the this person. To tell the absolute truth which is what I do, I didn't even like this person the few times I had contact with him. That doesn't make the situation any less sad. My sister has two small children and they now have no daddy.
It's over the top sad.
Being an atheist puts another spin on this too. I think it makes it more sad. When someone said that Dan had accepted "god's will" that bugged me because he didn't accept anything. His death was thrust upon him.
Today there is another viewing followed by a mass followed by a burial.
My atheist friend and mentor Sarah from vegas is in NY and her flight we figured out is 15 mins before mine on the same airline at the same airport we have plans to meet up so I'll be able to dump this on her which is going to get me through today. Some people would call that fate, or 'meant to be', Sarah and I call it a:
Coincidence
posted by J.R. at 4:11 AM
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